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While discussing / negotiating with Parents of Bride & Groom we came on the following conclusion which will be taken care of :
1. Serious and quick follow ups are absolutely needed. Long gap without any valid reason irritates the negotiating party.
2. Polite and mannered tone with proper body language while discussing the issues 'really do wonders'.
3. Wrong signals goes when some parents talk with an Official Dictatorship tone. Be a 'Father' not an Officer..
4. Don't wait for other party to come to you first, take initiatives to approach the right and suitable choices, after all it's the matter of Life Long happiness not only for husband & wife but their family members also.
5. While providing the details of bio data and family background try to project a true picture that will certainly help you for a better understanding in future.
6. Remember..other people have feelings too- the world does not revolve around us only. When a person takes a moment to express a thought or feeling please...please don't hijack/overlap the conversation.
7. Life is not so short but you can always take enough time out of your precious life for courtesy...
Good luck...
1. Serious and quick follow ups are absolutely needed. Long gap without any valid reason irritates the negotiating party.
2. Polite and mannered tone with proper body language while discussing the issues 'really do wonders'.
3. Wrong signals goes when some parents talk with an Official Dictatorship tone. Be a 'Father' not an Officer..
4. Don't wait for other party to come to you first, take initiatives to approach the right and suitable choices, after all it's the matter of Life Long happiness not only for husband & wife but their family members also.
5. While providing the details of bio data and family background try to project a true picture that will certainly help you for a better understanding in future.
6. Remember..other people have feelings too- the world does not revolve around us only. When a person takes a moment to express a thought or feeling please...please don't hijack/overlap the conversation.
7. Life is not so short but you can always take enough time out of your precious life for courtesy...
Good luck...
Beware of "Breakups"
If we consider the history of the institution of marriage, all of us would agree that it started at the time of creation itself. Man and woman are different both biologically and in mental makeup. However, the creation would not continue if man and woman do not come together. The physical and emotional needs unite man and woman and marriages take place. Till the beginning of the twentieth century, joint families and lifetime single marriages were quite prevalent. Divorces were few and far in between. However, things started changing as more and more women took up careers and achieved financial independence. The dependence of women on men declined. Let us consider following reasons why couples generally break up.
Desire to be independent.
Getting attracted to another person.
Infidelity.
Physical incompatibility.
Less attracted to the person in a sexual way.
Conflict in tastes and desires.
Comparing the man or woman to others constantly
Imparting unsolicited advice all the time
Addiction to alcohol or drugs
Deterioration in the health of one spouse or suffering from incurable ailments
Physical and mental abuse and exhibiting sadistic tendencies
Ignoring or showing disrespect to friends and relatives of one spouse.
Impotency or inability to bear children.
The above reasons are all chief causes for a marriage breakup. Sometimes, one reason alone might be enough for separation, while in several cases, a combination of a few of them lead to divorce.
Physical and mental abuse is another major reason for divorces. Sadistic tendencies in either spouse that lead to continuous physical or mental torture usually ends in parting of ways. Too much addiction to alcohol or drugs had also led to marriage failures in several cases. Too much irritating by a spouse, and this is usually done more by women than men, had resulted in marriage breakup very often. The other similar reasons are comparing the man or the woman with other persons continuously and hurting the sentiments or creating an inferiority complex could also lead to divorce.
Finally, the financial independence achieved by women had brought in a change in their attitude. They feel that their individuality must be respected and should not be interfered with. Their economic dependence on men is much less or non-existent compared to olden days when women stayed at home. Further, the separate careers result in men and women working in different places, thus increasing not only the physical distance but also the mental distance. This invariably leads to separation. All these causes, either singly or in combination, end up in the couple breaking up. However, an understanding approach and a give-and-take policy would avoid divorces, if both men and women take a more tolerant attitude.
Desire to be independent.
Getting attracted to another person.
Infidelity.
Physical incompatibility.
Less attracted to the person in a sexual way.
Conflict in tastes and desires.
Comparing the man or woman to others constantly
Imparting unsolicited advice all the time
Addiction to alcohol or drugs
Deterioration in the health of one spouse or suffering from incurable ailments
Physical and mental abuse and exhibiting sadistic tendencies
Ignoring or showing disrespect to friends and relatives of one spouse.
Impotency or inability to bear children.
The above reasons are all chief causes for a marriage breakup. Sometimes, one reason alone might be enough for separation, while in several cases, a combination of a few of them lead to divorce.
Physical and mental abuse is another major reason for divorces. Sadistic tendencies in either spouse that lead to continuous physical or mental torture usually ends in parting of ways. Too much addiction to alcohol or drugs had also led to marriage failures in several cases. Too much irritating by a spouse, and this is usually done more by women than men, had resulted in marriage breakup very often. The other similar reasons are comparing the man or the woman with other persons continuously and hurting the sentiments or creating an inferiority complex could also lead to divorce.
Finally, the financial independence achieved by women had brought in a change in their attitude. They feel that their individuality must be respected and should not be interfered with. Their economic dependence on men is much less or non-existent compared to olden days when women stayed at home. Further, the separate careers result in men and women working in different places, thus increasing not only the physical distance but also the mental distance. This invariably leads to separation. All these causes, either singly or in combination, end up in the couple breaking up. However, an understanding approach and a give-and-take policy would avoid divorces, if both men and women take a more tolerant attitude.